Know to attract everything you want by only one way

                                FOCUS  ON  YOURSELF

"Ever heard the phrase 'focus on yourself, be yourself'? It sounds simple, right? But what does 'focus on yourself' mean? Does it mean concentrating on your body, your dreams, or the yet-to-be-reached future? And what about 'be yourself'? You might have these questions on your mind. Let me take you on a journey through life in this blog. Are you ready to uncover some of your hidden strengths and weaknesses? Let's go.

Let's start with childhood.

Once, there was a little child who loved playing with colorful Lego blocks. Every day, the child tried to build amazing houses with those tiny bricks. While playing with Legos, family members often made jokes, saying things like, 'Look at what he is doing! Building houses out of toys!' But the child wasn't bothered by their laughter; he was too busy concentrating on their work.

For hours, he patiently sat and connected the blocks, determined to finish his house. Finally, after a lot of hard work, he completed the most incredible house he had ever built. With a big, proud smile on his face, he carefully carried it to where his family was gathered. As he showed them his creation, his family's laughter turned into amazement. They said, 'Awwe ! So beautiful!'

Do you want to know who that child is? It's you. In childhood, you were so focused on your work that as you read the story above, you might have forgotten that the child is you.

Now let's move to another stage of life.

Once, a young boy had a big dream: he wanted a bicycle more than anything in the world. He kept telling his mom about it, but she would always say, 'You're still too small to ride a bike. You might fall and get hurt.' But he was determined. So one day, he confided in his best friend. Together, they decided to learn how to ride a bicycle without their parents knowing. They went to a friendly, older boy, known as the neighborhood bike expert.

They practiced every day, and, oh, they fell down a lot! But they didn't give up. After three long months of trying and trying, something magical happened. They learned how to ride the bike without falling! The boy couldn't contain his excitement. He went to his mom and said, 'Mom, I've learned to ride a bike! Can I please have one now?' His mom, seeing the determination in her son's eyes, finally said yes. She gave him the red bicycle he had been dreaming of.

And again, the same question arises: do you want to know who that young person is? Yes, it's you. At that time, you were so happy that you might have forgotten it's you.

Now, let's move on to the teenage years.

Once upon a time, there was a student. Her teacher asked her to join a drawing competition, but there was a problem – she didn't know how to draw. She didn't want to say no to her teacher, so she turned to her friend, who was really good at drawing. She asked her to teach, and her friend agreed, but she asked, 'What will you give me in return?' Then the student replied, 'If I win any prize, I will give it to you on stage.'

 She practiced hard for a week. When the competition day arrived, she nervously participated. To everyone's surprise, she won the second prize! When her name was called, she went on stage and said, 'This prize belongs to my dear friend.' People were amazed by her selflessness. Then she told everyone that promises and friendship meant more to her than a prize. Her teacher and everyone else in the audience were deeply touched by her act of gratitude.

I think after reading until now, you know what I will say next. Yes, it's you. At that time, you were so selfless that now, when you are reading it, you may forget it's you.

Congratulations! 

You have successfully reached your youth. Now, let's see what we've learned.

CHILDHOOD

In childhood, you were so focused on your work that you didn't care what others thought of you or their opinions about your goals. But wait, what I've found now is that before doing anything, you're thinking about what society will think of you. At what stage of your life did that thinking start?

POST CHILDHOOD

You were so determined to achieve what you wanted that you didn't give up until you got it. You even knew what you wanted. But what happened to you now? Do you know what you want? Do you know what you want to achieve? Or do you want to get what others want from you? Even if you know what you want, why do you think it's hard? Is it harder than learning to ride a bicycle at the age of 5?

TEENAGE

You knew the meaning of friendship, promises, gratitude, and selflessness. You were not driven by greed or a desire to show off. You even sacrificed the prize you won. Then why not now? Why are you forgetting the people who helped you in difficult times? Why are you not keeping your promises just for a small prize you want from life? And what I've found is that you're becoming too competitive with your friends. In your teenage years, you liked to celebrate your friends' successes.

So, what have we learned from this journey? You might not even realize when you changed. The confident, clear, and simple younger version of yourself has now turned into an elder version filled with self-doubt, confusion, and complexity. So when did you really change? I'm giving you the answer: you changed slowly because of the effects of your surroundings. How can you change yourself to be the happiest version of yourself? Follow these rules:

1.    Never give yourself negative statements like 'don't compare' or 'don't try to be someone else' because our minds are counterintuitive in nature. The more you tell yourself not to, the more you'll be inclined to do it. Instead, focus on the positive. It's okay to make mistakes, to compare, and then ignore those thoughts.

2.    Be honest with yourself. If you don't know something, accept it. Sometimes we don't accept it and give ourselves excuses like, 'I know it all.'

3.    Do the things that make you feel comfortable.

a)    If you like loose dresses, wear them.

b)    If you like sitting on the floor, sit there.

c)     If you like to dance, then dance.

4.    Believe that you can. Even if the whole world says no, even if your past efforts have been unsuccessful, and even if your own mind tells you no, always have the belief that you can achieve what you want.

5.    Learn to say 'NO.'

6.    If you can, most of the time, think, 'Yes, I am wrong, and that's okay.' Many problems arise because we want to prove we are right.

7.    Avoid the 'big mentality' and cherish small happiness. You don't need a reason to smile or be happy. To achieve something big, don't neglect the small steps.

8.    Surround yourself with people you love but don't forget to learn from the experience of being around negative people.

9.    You don't need to be right or perfect. We love you for your imperfections. Even if everyone else hates you, remember that someone still loves you.

10.                    Lastly, love all and help all. Whatever you give to others will come back to you from the universe because the Earth is still round.

 Remember:

'Success is something you attract by the person you become'

"How do you feel now after completing this journey? Did you discover the one and only way to achieve anything? If you did, that's great. If not, let me share that hidden secret with you – it's action. Action that is not swayed by external influences. Action that is free from attachment to results and emotions. Action with a singular intention focused entirely on yourself. So, if there's something you desire in life, whether it's materialistic like a car or a house, or something less tangible like love or spiritual fulfillment, the key is to take action now. Concentrate on what matters to you. Even if it seems small, remember that it holds value in the vast universe. Keep your focus on that value, and in time, you'll witness a magical process – the connecting of the dots.

Let me share something from my own life: I've personally observed that the universe often presents us with numerous opportunities to attain our desires. The challenge lies in aligning the right time, the right people, and the right opportunities. But don't worry; you will undoubtedly receive what you desire. The universe is always trying to grant your wishes, and when the right moment arrives, you'll receive it. In the meantime, cherish everything bestowed upon you by the universe."

           This is life :)