Don't be too available for anyone, time to find your own space

“Hey, why am I feeling so unhappy?" I am surprised, frustration is all across my face. "I'm always available for everyone, constantly replying to others' messages and meeting their needs. But when it's my turn to seek support or simply have a conversation, it seems like everyone is suddenly too busy or unresponsive." I came to the realization that being constantly available for others wasn't bringing me the fulfilment I had hoped for. In fact, it left me feeling undervalued. So sometimes are you also feeling same?

Then This blog post takes you into the importance of setting boundaries and explores the power of being less available. Now, let me share with you a story that perfectly illustrates why being constantly available for anyone can take you to feel downwards.

Once upon a time, there was a girl named Lily. Lily had a genuine desire to help others. She was always available for her friends, family, and even unknown persons whenever they needed. No matter how busy she was, Lily made it a point to reply to messages, often being the first to respond. Whenever a friend needed a shoulder to cry on, she would drop everything to help other. If a friend required assistance with a project, she would work late into the night to provide support. Her phone was always within reach, ready to respond to messages and calls promptly.

 Initially, she found fulfilment by helping everyone. She felt appreciated, valuable. Her availability quickly became known among her social circle, and people relied on her support. Lily felt a sense of fulfilment, knowing she could be there for others whenever they needed her.

 As she concentrated to the needs of others, she started neglecting her own desires. She postponed pursuing her hobbies, saying she would do them when she had more time. She pushed her own self-care to the back burner, thinking that she could always catch up later. But "later" never seemed to arrive.

 However, she felt something wrong that whenever she reached out for support or simply wanted to have a conversation, people were suddenly too busy or took longer to respond. It left her feeling confused and unimportant, as if her value was decreasing.

As the days passed, Lily couldn't handle the sadness and frustration building inside her. She cried, questioning why the same level of care and attention wasn't given to her. It hurts to realize that her availability had taken for granted.

 In the depths of her sorrow, Lily decided to take a step back and reflect on her situation. She realized that her value should not solely be defined by her availability to others. she took a step back and learned to say "no" when it was necessary. She discovered the importance of self-care and carving out time for herself. By setting limits and communicating her availability more clearly, she began to regain control over her own life.

Lily started to communicate her needs and expectations more clearly. She let others know that she, too, deserved their time and attention. Some people reacted with surprise, while others took notice and began to show a deeper appreciation for her presence in their lives.

 Gradually, Lily began to rebuild her sense of self-worth. She engaged in activities that brought her joy, pursued her own passions, and surrounded herself with those who valued and respected her boundaries. Through this process, she rediscovered her inner strength and showed the world her true value.

 In the end, Lily's journey taught her the importance of balance and self-care. She realized that being available for others didn't mean sacrificing her own happiness or neglecting her own needs. By setting boundaries and valuing herself, Lily not only regained her sense of worth but also inspired others to recognize and appreciate her true value in their lives.

 The above story is a real story of someone. And it can be yours also. You know what generally threatens us , it's LONLINESS. It often drives us to make ourselves available for everyone, hoping to fill the void in our hearts. However, in the process, we may neglect our own well-being and end up feeling hurt and unfulfilled. To recover, we must learn to prioritize self-care, set healthy boundaries, seek meaningful connections, practice self-reflection, and embrace our own worthiness. No matter how much you try to do the best for others but if you are not doing best for yourself then you are going to end up unhappy, alone, sad and as a failure.

At the end nothing will matters, no one will be with you (neither friends, teachers, colleagues, lover nor even your parents), no one will remember your success or failure but only you can. It's foolish to assume that the friends we constantly engage with on social media, sharing photos and every moment of our lives, will always stay by our side unchanged. People grow and change, and so do their behaviorr and priorities also. Friendships can shift, and it's important to remember that, rather than dwelling on the loss, we can take proactive steps to meet new people, explore different interests, and foster new connections. It's through mutual understanding, and effort and flow of friendships, ensuring that they continue to bring joy and fulfilment into our lives.

At the end if you are also feeling alone, you can share your story with us.